Mariolino Bros Super dixit: and I felt compelled to respond. From a comment to a post on Sanbudello left by a sharp and intelligent bloggers who signed Mariolino you get to totally unconventional reflections on old age.
Who reads me knows that every time I speak of old and old age. It 'an intriguing concept, go around him because I feel it coming and I want to be prepared, but also because there are so many old and it is difficult to ignore.
One of these old ladies said that when she went to stay there, in the district of Arezzo Giotto, were all young families with children. It was a new district, was first across the country. There I lived with my family I too. An area of \u200b\u200b6 or 7 floors high buildings, ugly and all different, without uniformity, the rush to build the sixties, two or three narrow streets and small compared to the size of the buildings, no green, except that the front was a large area fallow, where there was a factory at the beginning of rail cars. They called it the "Fabbricone" and the next morning I woke up with the siren that called workers. Arezzo when everything, from small towns and country, was transformed into an industrial center of some importance. The
Fabbricone, already in the years of my childhood, it was moved and became this vast area fallow and fenced, where the boys went to play football bypassing the high iron gates at the risk of being caught by the keeper. But that was the beauty.
At that time my father came to get me one morning at school, I was in fifth grade or sixth grade, and took me to speak with the Mayor. Yes, yes, with the mayor. I had time suggesting my dreams / projects in my country that space should be given to children who lived in the area to build huts, Campina to play football or any other thing we liked to do. Un'incrocio between Neverland and fields Robinson. Averglielo I had said many times that day because the Mayor, he had to talk to my dad about things work, I received and talked with me, I felt totally at ease, and he promised to formally create a large garden area. This was done after 13 years and did not look for anything in my dream. I'm talkative and I go off topic.
Restless. Giotto in the district, now that more than forty years of my childhood and all the other kids, we have been living almost exclusively old, really old, because life has lengthened and many far exceed the eighty . The postwar baby boom has run out and Italy has become a country with negative growth, so that when you see the families of non- con bambini piccoli ci si ferma a guardare con gioia: le famiglie giovani sono un bello spettacolo e i bambini attirano lo sguardo . Ci si trova a sorridere senza rendersene conto .
Le case, una volta animate da voci infantili , sono silenziose , in ogni appartamento vivono una o due persone, 4, 5 o 6 stanze riscaldate, arredate , mantenute per una sola persona che si avvia a concludere la propria vita. Se le sono guadagnate, hanno buone pensioni che permettono loro di vivere in pace questa fase finale della vita .
Dice la mia amica Patrizia, che un pò d'anni fa comprò un libro sui "Mandala" :
"Il Mandala rappresenta la vita , può avere la forma di una spirale, che si espande nella fase della giovinezza, ma then rewinds, and we think that? We are at the stage of retraction, it is part of ourselves, we are no longer open, we become introspective, selfish ... Bad thing! "
Sometimes talking with Patrick is just depressing.
But so are all people who are at the stage of retraction of the Mandala, like the hibiscus flower" rose sinensis, which did so much to my father because it opened spiral and reverse the motion, continued to turn in the same direction and the next morning it was shut spiral faded. These neighborhoods are full of old pennies. As long as things went well there were the non-EU working with old people, shopping , aiutare in casa , e poi assistere chi diventava non più autosufficente, ora anche gli italiani lo fanno volentieri , per la penuria di lavoro. Per ognuna di queste persone viene spesa una cifra del loro denaro notevole , più alta di quella che una famiglia adesso può destinare ad un proprio componente giovane .
L'estate scorsa, quando il mio suocero si è rotto il femore e si è definitivamente allettato, anche noi ci siamo fatti prendere dal vortice delle emozioni, fra puntine inevitabili di sensi di colpa immotivati e rispetto della malattia , e abbiamo speso un piccolo patrimonio per le notti in ospedale , che poi neanche erano necessarie . Quando la mia suocera non ce la faceva più a seguire il marito , si era data troppo da fare e stava crollando , alcuni parenti volevano portarla dal più famoso psichiatra d'Italia , che ha curato Sandra Mondaini . Io mi innervosii parecchio e non capivo perchè . Era già stata visitata e le erano state date delle medicine per aiutarla e mi sembrava che bastasse .
Poi ho capito cosa mi irritava tanto . E qui chi non ha smesso di leggere presti attenzione , perchè questo è il punto dove volevo arrivare . Ho capito che mi disturbava tutta questa premura intorno ad una persona anziana , che era davvero eccessiva . La premura in realtà c'era stata, le contro misure predisposte e mi pareva in tutta sincerità che non ci fosse altro da fare . Le energie delle famiglie and society should be naturally oriented towards the future and the future is young people, children and grandchildren. Old people had their way, should not be abandoned, rather they are an asset and their good health is a good thing for the family, why do not have to worry too much for them, but a healthy mental attitude expected you work for the future, for those who come after. Environmental sustainability, for example, is exactly that:
"The world is ours, we borrow it from our children and our grandchildren" reminds you of something?
We live in a time dimension, along a line that has experienced the past and the future ahead, we do, we turn back, the car stops to avoid going on? According to the relatives of my husband last summer we had all our young people, to make a supreme sacrifice, my husband had to ask for leave, dropping everything to follow a man who would die, who knows when. Luckily my husband and I follow a little common sense and we do not trap. Because it is an attitude of self-and hetero-destructive masked by dozens of good intentions and feelings untouchable, like respect for the suffering and death and filial love. In the face of death you anything! The father gave his life for you. And so on. We were already doing everything possible. I must say that I understand the ultimate cause of this attitude, these relatives have only one child with enormous problems, and then they see the future "burned out" non-existent. But I do not, I have daughters that the idea of \u200b\u200bthe future me new every day, thank God. If an elderly family member is slowly dying in this issue will deal with this complex phase, and not all die with him, or chronically ill with sadness.
However, even without considering the experiences just read the statements ISTAT, Italy is aging, the work in the tertiary (services) are there for assistance and resources accumulated in previously burned without producing new wealth. These elderly people living bene con le loro pensioni saranno gli ultimi . Io la pensione non so se riuscirò ad averla perchè mi mancano più di 4 anni di contributi per arrivare alla minima . Non si trova più un lavoro che possa chiamarsi tale e in nome della crisi molti si sentono autorizzati a trattare i dipendenti come carne da macello .Con le nostre pensioni, chi le avrà , dovrà aiutare i figli, come già avviene ora . La situazione di questi anziani in pochi anni è diventata un privilegio che fa quasi vergogna. Senza parlare delle pensioni nell'ordine di 4 o 5 mila euro al mese con cui vivrebbero bene due famiglie. Quelle contraddizioni che si osservavano fra il nord e il sud del mondo ora si presentano , acuite dalla situazione economica, dentro the same social group. It 's a company that, as the Mandala of Patrick, retracts on itself, collapsing on itself. But do not worry, the changes are so fast that it may be that in a few months is already very different now for instance, there's the new variable of the collapse of the North African regimes. Mariolino the word to you, if you're online. Then again speaking of the ancestors of the syndrome, which seems to suit me: I thought of ending arguments and instead I find more of them.
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